Why the doctor isn’t always in

Why the doctor isn’t always in

Requests come as texts, asking for my “quick opinion” on an idea, or in long emails with documents or contracts, asking for my review (and professional opinion). These are appropriate when they come from paying clients and colleagues, but I’m talking about requests for “freebies,” which are never easy for me and almost always turn into full-on life coaching sessions. I’m not saying I never ask for advice, or that I pay my friends for their counsel. We all have our inner circles where support is both appreciated and reciprocal. But looking at my chaise lounge and wondering how often the doctor is “in,” I started asking colleagues and friends about “the freebie:”

  • How many do you give?

  • Do you have a set limit per week/month?

  • When does a freebie become a real project? What is the time threshold?

  • Is there a topic of “never free” advice?

  • How do you choose who you say yes to?

  • How do you set boundaries around a quick chat?

  • How/When do you convert a friendly chat into a paid working or coaching session?

With hope and thanks today and every day. Happy Women’s History Month.

With hope and thanks today and every day. Happy Women’s History Month.

International Women’s Day? Women’s History Month? I believe every day and every month are (or should be) about women. But not just women; I want all humans to get it together, as in two-gether. Because it takes two (or really more like 7.7 billion) people to make this thing work. We need everyone, every day.

Show Me The Social Handles! — Event Maven Tips for Event Producers

Show Me The Social Handles! — Event Maven Tips for Event Producers

I’m sitting at an event, enthralled with the speaker. I jot down a quote, I take a photo, and I think, “I want to tweet this and post it to Instagram and Twitter.”

I look at the slides being shared. I search my conference program, the conference website, and my conference app for the speaker’s social handles.

THEY ARE NOT LISTED ANYWHERE.

Now I’m distracted, trying to listen to the rest of the talk. I want to be present, and I’ve paid to be here. Instead, I’m trolling a search engine on my phone for the speaker’s name — no results — so I give up for the moment. My tweet/Instagram post is half written and saved in draft.

This conspicuous absence of speaker social accounts presents itself at most events I attend, on every level from user groups to meetups to industry events to large technology conferences.

This is a call, an appeal to ALL EVENT PRODUCERS.

The Lovely People of Puerto Rico — SharePoint Saturday Caribbean

The Lovely People of Puerto Rico — SharePoint Saturday Caribbean

Wherever I travel the thing that lights me up about a city is always its people. The cities I love the most trend to similar affinities. Many times they are beach communities with musicians, artists, surfers, skaters and street art, and have an eclectic mix of people.

San Juan, Puerto Rico has all of the above. Talking with the local technology community and locals working in San Juan, they speak of being on the mend, still in need and still wondering why they were otherwise forgotten.