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Why Toxic People Are Dangerous: Sashay Away

Why Toxic People Are Dangerous: Sashay Away

Reading the last email where someone in my life decided to put me and my work down in front of other people I started thinking about my How to Kick Fear and Toxicity Out of the Workplace presentation, and I came to the following:

We have three choices as we navigate dealing with toxic people:

  • The path of least resistance — Keeping quiet, lowering expectations trying to get through with as few confrontations as possible

  • The path of confrontation — Getting down and getting into it

  • The path of “I’m done” — To turn on one’s heel and simply walk away.

The CYA Email — Will We Ever Be Free?

The CYA Email — Will We Ever Be Free?

We are adults, right? You would think doing your job would be enough.

You would think all the hours you spend on work and meetings to deliver a project would be enough.

You would think the verbal status report you give in your weekly meetings would be enough.

Sadly, in our “if it isn’t in writing it didn’t happen” culture, often that just doesn’t cut it.

Will we ever see a time when we no longer need the infamous CYA (Cover Your Ass) email?

Why the doctor isn’t always in

Why the doctor isn’t always in

Requests come as texts, asking for my “quick opinion” on an idea, or in long emails with documents or contracts, asking for my review (and professional opinion). These are appropriate when they come from paying clients and colleagues, but I’m talking about requests for “freebies,” which are never easy for me and almost always turn into full-on life coaching sessions. I’m not saying I never ask for advice, or that I pay my friends for their counsel. We all have our inner circles where support is both appreciated and reciprocal. But looking at my chaise lounge and wondering how often the doctor is “in,” I started asking colleagues and friends about “the freebie:”

  • How many do you give?

  • Do you have a set limit per week/month?

  • When does a freebie become a real project? What is the time threshold?

  • Is there a topic of “never free” advice?

  • How do you choose who you say yes to?

  • How do you set boundaries around a quick chat?

  • How/When do you convert a friendly chat into a paid working or coaching session?

The Lovely People of Puerto Rico — SharePoint Saturday Caribbean

The Lovely People of Puerto Rico — SharePoint Saturday Caribbean

Wherever I travel the thing that lights me up about a city is always its people. The cities I love the most trend to similar affinities. Many times they are beach communities with musicians, artists, surfers, skaters and street art, and have an eclectic mix of people.

San Juan, Puerto Rico has all of the above. Talking with the local technology community and locals working in San Juan, they speak of being on the mend, still in need and still wondering why they were otherwise forgotten.

Shaving Off Toxic Masculinity — The Best an Ad Can Get?

Shaving Off Toxic Masculinity — The Best an Ad Can Get?

Toxicity, harassment and bullying have no place in our world, by anyone, anywhere at any time. Our world continues to change, evolve and grow. How we behave matters, “just because that’s the way it has always been” doesn’t work anymore. How we all show up every day, how companies show up is important and something that we as consumers consider when we buy and something I deeply contemplate as a marketer and a human.