Fear & Toxicity

Rounding the Corner on Burnout

Rounding the Corner on Burnout

This summer I reached my own "tipping point" - spinning too many plates at once and finally realizing I was in a state of burnout. Hard to admit, because we all want to be Wonder Woman, but it is the truth. 

Burnout: physical and mental collapse caused by overwork, stress, and a disproportionate ratio of demands to resources. 

Gossip (aka Not Your Story to Share)  

Gossip (aka Not Your Story to Share)  

A few years ago, I was chatting with two colleagues, one of whom was serving up some hot gossip. We both listened, even adding in some of our own flair once she finished. But when she left, my colleague immediately said, "She really shouldn't have shared any of that with us. What a great reminder never to tell her anything about your personal life.” My colleague was on point, and I've kept myself to myself around this person ever since. Picture for a moment, seeing your deepest, darkest secrets splashed on one of those trashy grocery store magazines for everyone to feast on, because that’s what happens when we gossip. 

Why Toxic People are Dangerous: Sashay Away 

Why Toxic People are Dangerous: Sashay Away 

We often try to take the high road and smooth the waters, answering jealousy, gossip, or meanness with kindness and understanding because we have empathy — we know people have their struggles and we’ve committed to a life of building bridges instead of burning them. We want to leave the world better than we found it. 

However. 

Sometimes there is a limit. When you’ve offered a wide berth, you’ve tried kindness, you’ve given the benefit of every doubt and still had no results, you need to remember the immortal words of RuPaul, The World’s Most Famous Drag Queen: and you need to Sashay Away. 

The CYA Email – Will We Ever Be Free? 

The CYA Email – Will We Ever Be Free? 

Did you get that in writing?

Because if it’s not in writing, it didn’t happen. I have heard this many times in my work career, and even lost a job I loved because I only had a verbal agreement. Unfortunately, simply doing good work isn’t always enough - we fear not getting credit, not being heard, and of course we fear having our heads on the chopping block when things go south. All this creates a culture of “covering your a$$” at work that negatively impacts company culture.