Yeah I know, I know swearing, but really.
I put my guard down for one second and let things get to me and oh how easy it is to let that mother fucker inner voice tackle your heart and your joy and your spirit.
I got this letter this morning as I was having my coffee.
Dear Ms. Newman,
It has come to our attention that you gave that little shit inner voice space this week, yours in particular, you know the one with the guilt and the worry. And it is our profound suggestion that you complete the following:
Shut that shit down
Apologize to yourself
Let it go
Namaste if you need that
And get back on track being a light for this world.
We only say this because we love and adore you and your light is needed in this chaotic world of ours. And, hey, always remember your “why.”
Friends don’t let friends be blue, for too long.
Recognizing that shitty little inner voice is a good thing, it reminds you of what you are always fighting against.
Worry and guilt are the beasts I need to slay constantly.
My friend reminded me this week that I am part of the divinely discontented club. The Double D if you will.
Being divinely discontented means that I always strive for more, more for myself, more for my friends and family, more for my business, more for what I’m passionate about and more for the world. Which mean I am pushy, bold, opinionated, I don’t quit and often roar like a tigress protecting her cubs, which doesn’t always leave a lot of downtime and can irk other people.
Yes, and… if childish, jealous, silly behavior in others and at times in myself that all comes from a place of fear doesn’t piss me off, I don’t know what does. (with the knowledge that we all have our demons and that everyone deserves a break and to lead with kindness always). I mean I give a presentation about How to Kick Fear and Toxicity out of the Workplace for goodness sake.
But that and other things still get under my joyful skin.
And people who seem to have it all and simply regular seemingly happy everyday people ending their lives, that doesn’t do wonders for one’s psyche either.
The management is not always right, but my inner management is usually on point.
So I’m gonna listen to her, cause she knows me and is truly the best one to take advice from, and thank you to those of you who light my spark and check on me. It’s always appreciated, and I don’t always ask for it even when I need it.
A few quotes from my favorite author about fear and that shitty inner voice:
“Learning from those before you is a dying art that can catapult you ahead in the land of Mastering.”
“Someone is going to hate what you do. That’s not a maybe. That’s a definite. And I don’t mean dislike. I mean hate. With energy and vitriol and a passion that surprises you.”
“I learned a simple lesson about being awesome: always play to the size of your heart, not to the size of your audience. Awesome doesn’t let the crowd determine the size of the performance. Awesome gets up for two people or 200. Awesome writes great books even if no one is going to read them. Awesome sweeps the parts of store floors that no foot will ever touch. Awesome can’t help itself. Awesome has a huge heart. And that’s what it always plays to. The size of the crowd doesn’t matter. The applause of the audience doesn’t matter.”
“More often than not, finding out what you love doing most is about recovering an old love or an inescapable truth that has been silenced for years, even decades. When you come to your dream job, your thing, it is rarely a first encounter. It’s usually a reunion.”
“Hustle isn’t just doing the things you love all the time. Hustle is doing the things you don’t enjoy sometimes to earn the right to do the things you love.”
“Joy is an incredible alarm clock. It will wake you up and keep you up and pick you up and gently pull you through a thousand rejections along the way.”
I love Jon Acuff’s writing, I highly recommend that you read his stuff.
I got the message, thank you for always looking out for me.
All my love, Hedda
Photo/comic by the amazingly brilliant and talented — Kerry Callen
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Written by Head Maven & CEO, Heather Newman, Creative Maven
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