Not able to be used or obtained; not at someone’s disposal.
(of a person) not free to do something; otherwise occupied.
This is something of note.
People tend to gravitate towards this
Because there is a safety in the
It allows for detachment.
For one not to fall completely
For the backing out.
For excuses to be alright.
For halftime to be okay.
The thing is
Is that unavailable is
BUT, it may be you that is unavailable
So it applies on both sides.
We allow this unavailability.
And we also make ourselves this way
So we don’t get too close.
To have to make a decision.
This is relationships in all forms
(love, work, play, breaking bad habits, completing something, being happy).
So all relationships you have and the one you have with yourself.
Even so, when someone is projecting this to you.
One should not stand for it
One should demand
All of it
The whole damn thing
The whole enchilada
The epic banana split.
It does not serve yourself
To stand for less
To accept partial devotion
Who wants half of the best you’ve ever had?
Why accept less than.
We do this all the time.
Especially when we need something desperately.
Partial attention is accepted.
We say oh it’s okay
Those who are empathetic and kind
Those who give and give and give
Those who accept the benefit of the doubt
Those who understand someone else’s shortcomings,
or history or tales of woe and sadness.
And accepting negative attention because is it better than none at all.
But it is tiring.
It is annoying
If you have issues go deal with them — that is what shrinks are for,
go do the work.
And I don’t want to watch people
I care about deal with this unavailability anymore.
Stop allowing for this asinine behavior
And demand the sun, the moon, the stars
A timely response
A thank you
And a choice
You deserve the grace and infinite love of the moon and back
And screw those that can’t or won’t give it to you.
Don’t let anyone waste your precious time
With their indecision and wiggly ass behavior.
It’s okay to be demanding
Those who are worth it will step up to the plate
and be the ones who can meet you and match you
If not more
And how about you being truly available when someone
Wants, needs, gives to you.
Goes both ways baby.
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Written by Head Maven & CEO, Heather Newman, Creative Maven
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