Day 7, June 2016, 30-day #bornwithwings writing challenge. Inspired by this excerpt of a poem by Rumi: "You were born with wings. You are not meant for crawling, so don't. You have wings. Learn to use them and fly."
You know what causes rape? Rapists.
You know who needs to stop raping. Rapists.
Also I would love to never here anyone use the word "rape" to describe something bad happening to them in business or about making a purchase.
"Dude that guy raped you on that deal". No he didn't, he did not stick his cock in your ass or mouth and fuck you with out your consent. He simply got you to pay more.
I have not yet been raped. I say yet because it's a 1 in 6 chance of being raped in ones lifetime.
I don't like those odds.
Most of life is a numbers game and right or wrong place at the right or wrong time.
By all the articles I've read I am in the "rape candidate" category.
I go grocery shopping or for coffee early in the AM.
I have long hair that is easily grab able.
I frequently take the stairs rather than the elevator to get more steps in.
I often park in garages.
I travel alone a lot.
I go out to dance clubs, parties and the like.
When I am in tropical places I tend to wear as little clothing as possible.
I have been known to make a dirty joke.
I work and play in male dominated industry (but don't we all).
So I guess I need to get a haircut and stop doing all of those things. Effective immediately.
The things is, we are all candidates (women, children, men) there's no rhyme or reason to acts of violence.
It's about power.
Reading the Stanford rape victim's letter was so heartbreaking and I am so proud of her.
Writing your story for the world to see is scary enough but to be so brave and vulnerable to share what happened knowing what she went and continues and will continue to go through is phenomenal.
There is no silver lining here but if her story shines a brighter light and prevents others from going through this, her voice has been heard.
This one is close to home not in a far off land where it's even more prevalent and encouraged.
I know so many women that have been raped and men that have been molested. It colors everything, every relationship you then have no matter when it happened.
We so often gloss over things that happen to people when we haven't experienced it ourselves.
In reading so much on this in the last bit, the thing is, it's rapists or potential rapists who need to change, to be taught "preventative" measures.
Jennifer Robinson took a lot of shit for her Rape Prevention Tips aimed at Rapists not women.
It's on point and an unabashed feminist viewpoint.
A quote from Jennifer and her original rape prevention post of "50 Ways To Prevent Yourself From Being A Rapist".
"My point was that, after all, we are never going to stop rape culture if we do not point out that the men who rape women need to be held responsible, rather than putting the onus of responsibility on women for "getting raped". No one "gets raped". Someone rapes a woman (or a man), and this is the fault of that someone, the one who did that, not the woman who was the victim."
Thanks Matthew Hawn for the original post from author, Adam Grant.